By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G
This past year has been fraught with health challenges for me right up until Christmas. The worst time was between October and December 2011 when I was in excruciating pain 24/7 and I thought my back would come off its hinges. For instance, on a scale of 1-10, the pain was 100! That gives you some idea of what I was up against. Pain killers and muscle relaxants were useless! A CT scan and MRI were also useless.
December came, and I thought about what kind of a life I wanted to live in 2012. I knew I had to get out of this pain first. That was a top priority. Next came seeing myself in good health and walking 1-2 miles a day without oxygen and without a walking cane (as I did the Spring of 2009 before everything hit the fan). Pretty important stuff. Once again, I refused to accept that my age was the sole culprit for my present circumstances.
Well this week leading up to Christmas was a turning point in my life. After a lot of praying for help and relief I experienced miracles happening! Yes, folks, Santa is alive and well! Wednesday morning I had Physical Therapy and in afternoon I saw Dr. Patel, the pain specialist, expecting to have the first in a series of epidurals. (The day before, Tuesday) I saw two MDs. My co-payment for these (4) doctors in (2) days was $150.00.
Would you believe Dr. Patel said I didn’t need the epidural because the physical therapy was helping me and that I should cancel the next appointment on 12/28 but keep the 1/4/2012 appt. I went to check out and Danielle, the secretary, asked me what Dr. Patel did to me. I said “Nothing – he just talked to me.” She said “Wait a minute,” then came back and handed me back my co-payment check! I was stunned. I figured they’d keep it as a “consultation” fee.
So, three (3) miracles occurred:
1. I didn’t need the epidural because I’m not in the severe pain as before.
2. I got my co-payment check back.
3. I was able to give my newspaper carrier (woman) a nice check for Christmas.
Ain’t that something! I’m walking on air! To be out of that dreadful pain is a miracle in itself.
Yes, folks, Santa is alive and well and miracles are happening… Folks, I do hope you are experiencing similar miracles, or kindnesses from your fellow man. If so, do email me at: artistwithaflair@att.net and let me know.
HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!
Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com
Copyright© 2011 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article please give me credit and a link back. Thank you.
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Monday, December 26, 2011
Saturday, December 10, 2011
THE NUTCRACKER IS ALIVE AND WELL!
By Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
When I lived in San Francisco I always treated myself, at Christmas-time, to a performance of “The Nutcracker.” I’ve carried on that tradition since moving to Southern California December 1997. To me Christmas isn’t Christmas without seeing a production of The Nutcracker…
I’m happy to say that there are some wonderful productions here in San Diego County. A few years back I got to see it performed by the famous Kirov Ballet Company in Escondido. I’ve also seen it performed by many local Junior Ballet Companies. The costumes are so different, varied and colorful, as are the renditions.
Last night was no exception. I had the privilege of seeing a “dress rehearsal” with some friends of this wonderful ballet featuring The Junior Ballet Ensemble, a non-profit organization created in 1997. (Their mission is to provide under-privileged youth and under-served seniors with a beautiful, and enriching cultural experience).
The cast was superb. Playing Herr Drosselmeyer was Thomas Deak,
Clara was Jessie Fendler, and the Nutcracker was played by Jonathan Shapiro. Of course, the music by Tchaikovsky was exquisite.
Other performances throughout the weekend will be held at the Sunshine Brooks Theater, 217 North Coast Hwy, Oceanside. For more information please call: 760-433-8900, www.oceansidetheater.org.
I encourage you to set a new tradition for yourself at Christmas. If you already have one I’d love to hear from you.
Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com
Copyright© 2011 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article please contact me. Thank you.
Monday, October 24, 2011
MAKING DECISIONS THAT EMPOWER YOU!
By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G
Over the years I’ve complimented myself on making decisions that have improved my life, welfare, education, etc. But, there were some serious voids that I didn’t want to confront. For example, I found myself making decisions based on what I could afford rather than what I needed, especially when it came to vacations. Sadly, I still do this today but now understand what’s behind such vacation decisions …
For many weeks I’d had severe back pain (24/7) that left me incapacitated. All home remedies were useless. Finally, I sort chiropractic help. My health insurance does not cover chiropractors. But, I was in enough pain that I knew I could not put a price tag on my health! Luckily, the universe stepped in to help. The mail brought a flyer from Dr. Farthing, my chiropractor of many years, offering a new service of adjustments only. I quickly made an appointment and now after three visits feel like a new woman! I am ecstatic that I gave myself permission to take action based on what I needed versus on what I could afford.
As a result, I am more determined than ever to get my health back by eventually discarding the walker, cane, and oxygen tank. Relying daily on the walker means that I’ve let some muscles atrophy. Hence, I’m unable to walk without this help. I know I need more patience with myself and must not expect miracles overnight. I plan to chart some small progress daily instead of giving up too quickly because I can’t reach my goal fast enough.
This means that some day I will travel again to places I’ve longed to visit, particularly Ireland where my ancestors are from. In order to trudge through museums, castles, churches, pubs, the countryside, etc. I must be able to walk without any impediments. Today, I would plan such a vacation without worrying about affording it but based on what I need to accomplish to enjoy a richer, fuller, happier life! Yes, I now have two very worthwhile goals to pursue: better health and a wonderful vacation based upon what I need rather than what I can afford.
Take a look at your life. Are you making decisions based on what you can afford versus upon what you need? I urge you not to shortchange yourself. You can’t put a price tag on health or vacations. Both are necessary to stay rejuvenated. I’m NOT saying you should spend your life savings or go into massive debt with no way of paying it off. Rather, journal about it and see where you can make some creative changes, improvisations or short cuts to help you reach your dreams. I guarantee you’ll be glad you did! Let me know your thoughts on this subject.
Bon voyage!
Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com
Copyright© 2011 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article. Thank you.Sunday, October 09, 2011
THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!
By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
It would be remiss of me to let any more time go by without thanking all you wonderful people who have left such encouraging messages this past year on my website www.shirleycarolan.com .
I want you to know that I sincerely I appreciate your taking the time to read my (website) articles and then writing me a comment, suggestion or two, and/or forwarding them on to your friends. Some of you even suggested that I sell my articles on-line and elsewhere. I am giving that some thought. What is fascinating is that you come from all over the globe, from various industries, and both sexes. I am deeply touched!
I’ve tried to reach some of you by email, but others just left their website address. Hence, I want to answer a few of your questions here.
Firstly, I started my website and blogs with different objectives in mind. Secondly, I write my own articles, about things that interest me, with each having an “a hah” moment. This way I don’t have to please someone else and I keep control of my writing. It’s amazing what lessons or new ideas can come from ordinary, everyday, events that happen. I feel the universe is teaching me there is more than one point of view, that I don’t need to be a captive of my emotions, or give my power away; that I can validate myself honestly and truthfully, that there are no coincidences but many realities… Little did I know this philosophy would resonate with so many of you…
Lastly the website was designed by a professional several years ago but has since been modified. Sorry, I do not know which software/platform she used.
In closing, I hope that you will continue to read and enjoy my articles, leave me a comment, or contact me directly with any pressing question and I will get back to you.
Cheerio, Ciao, Auf Weidersehen!
Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com
Copyright© 2011 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article. Thank you.
Friday, September 16, 2011
TOASTMASTER CONTESTS BEGIN!
By Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
It’s that time of year when Toastmasters International Clubs all over the globe start having their two annual Fall contests: The Humorous Speech Contest, and the Evaluation Contest. The winners at the Club level than proceed to the Area level and compete with contestants from clubs within their Area. Next follows the Division level contest, and finally the big daddy of all, the District Speech Contests.
Right before the Labor Day holiday my club, Tick Talk Toastmasters, Carlsbad, Calif. held it’s two contests. The Humorous Speech contest lived up to its name with some top candidates vying for first place. The winner is Erik Huber, a former navy SEAL, who regaled us with stories from his life.
The Evaluation Contest is more serious. A guest speaker, usually one unknown to the contestants, delivers a 5-7 minute speech on a topic of their choice that they would like to get some feedback on. The participants in this contest get five (5) minutes to assess the speech, and deliver a report using highly technical criteria, and come up with an evaluation of how the speech impacted them, what the strengths and weaknesses were, with concrete suggestions for improvement. Some criteria used in judging the speech are: Body language, vocal variety, clarity, effectiveness, purpose, correct grammar, a clear opening, body, and conclusion with something the audience can take home with them, e.g., What’s In It For Me (WIIFM)?
All evaluators are sequestered as they write up their report. Then, all must hand in their reports and pens to the Sargent @ Arms while the first contestant is led back into the main room to give their report. The other evaluation contestants therefore, have no idea what each Evaluator has to say to the guest speaker and audience.
This year, we had three very three very competent evaluators: Our Club President, Carole Sheckler, a seasoned Toastmaster, Dan McKeon, and a 30 year veteran, yours truly, Shirley Carolan. I was very happy to compete in this contest having been absent during August due to cataract surgery. Even though I have 30 years’ of experience behind me, it is surprising how rusty one can get.
I am pleased to say that I won the Evaluation Contest. I used the “Three P’s” method for evaluating: “Posture, Pausing, and Pacing.” For posture I described how the speaker used his hands, with the no-no fig leaf position, then rubbing his hands together, etc. I complimented him on his pausing and pacing throughout and his excellent slides. Lastly, I gave him three suggestions for improvement: Get a laser pointer for his slides, thus avoiding talking to his slides with his back to the audience, which muffled his voice. Next, to watch his body language, particularly his hand movements which were a bit distracting, and lastly, to watch his grammar, particularly his word endings which were a bit slurred.
Now it’s off to the Area Contest and competing with all the clubs in our Area! What fun! Maybe I’ll see you there?
Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com
Copyright© 2011 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article please give me credit and a link back. Thank you.
Sunday, August 14, 2011
CATARACT SURGERY
By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G
Thank God I am now over the fear of cataract surgery! Despite the good wishes, and advice from family, friends and neighbors that cataract surgery is a “piece of cake” I could not get my head around the fact that I was facing it last Monday morning. I truly was dragged kicking and screaming to surgery. I have a fear of pain. You might call me a professional coward. And, you’d be right. I even told the nurse to have that “piece of cake” ready for me when I came out of surgery! Now, I can honestly say the fear of that surgery was the worst part and I’m sure glad it’s over.
This is turning out to be a noteworthy summer... one I never would or could have planned myself. Had I known ahead of time some of the events that would transpire I doubt I would have had the courage to face them. I say this because it all started at the end of May, with the loss of my beloved little Shih-Tzu, Krissy, to being attacked and killed by a coyote. I had her for 10 wonderful years. She was almost like the daughter I never had. Her loss still weighs heavily on me but I am learning to forgive myself and stop blaming myself for what happened.
A month later I adopted an adorable, golden, one year old, cocker/poodle named Teddy from the animal shelter. He is very active and so lovable and I am truly blessed to have him in my life. I’ve made a few adjustments to help him fit in although he is still afraid of riding in the car. I am working on this because my other two dogs went everywhere with me. He wants a lot of loving but he also gives a lot of loving too. He is teaching me new lessons, particularly Patience!
I am working on raising my energy vibrations, doing meditations, affirmations and journaling so I can clear out all the old and sad memories. Hence, I am working with an energy healer is this regard. My dream is to be able to able to walk 1-2 miles daily without oxygen or walker!
Perhaps I will look back on the summer of 2011 some day and say “that was the summer that was!”
Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com
Copyright© 2011 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article. Thank you.
Thank God I am now over the fear of cataract surgery! Despite the good wishes, and advice from family, friends and neighbors that cataract surgery is a “piece of cake” I could not get my head around the fact that I was facing it last Monday morning. I truly was dragged kicking and screaming to surgery. I have a fear of pain. You might call me a professional coward. And, you’d be right. I even told the nurse to have that “piece of cake” ready for me when I came out of surgery! Now, I can honestly say the fear of that surgery was the worst part and I’m sure glad it’s over.
This is turning out to be a noteworthy summer... one I never would or could have planned myself. Had I known ahead of time some of the events that would transpire I doubt I would have had the courage to face them. I say this because it all started at the end of May, with the loss of my beloved little Shih-Tzu, Krissy, to being attacked and killed by a coyote. I had her for 10 wonderful years. She was almost like the daughter I never had. Her loss still weighs heavily on me but I am learning to forgive myself and stop blaming myself for what happened.
A month later I adopted an adorable, golden, one year old, cocker/poodle named Teddy from the animal shelter. He is very active and so lovable and I am truly blessed to have him in my life. I’ve made a few adjustments to help him fit in although he is still afraid of riding in the car. I am working on this because my other two dogs went everywhere with me. He wants a lot of loving but he also gives a lot of loving too. He is teaching me new lessons, particularly Patience!
I am working on raising my energy vibrations, doing meditations, affirmations and journaling so I can clear out all the old and sad memories. Hence, I am working with an energy healer is this regard. My dream is to be able to able to walk 1-2 miles daily without oxygen or walker!
Perhaps I will look back on the summer of 2011 some day and say “that was the summer that was!”
Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com
Copyright© 2011 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article. Thank you.
Monday, July 25, 2011
GRIEF …
By Shirley Carolan, ATM
Grief is so personal and yet a necessary part of the human condition. I’m sure it’s there to teach us to live, laugh and enjoy each day to the fullest that we have on this beautiful planet … to focus on the NOW instead of spending time and energy focusing on our loss... Without grief, we probably would not appreciate all the other wonderful things happening around and in us. Even animals are not immune to loss and suffering …
Yes, the opposite of grief is joy. But I am not there yet! Somehow, I still mourn the loss of my little Shih-Tzu, Krissy, on May 25, 2011. I blame myself for what happened to her even though I am aware that will not bring her back, or, change what happened. I don’t feel that I’m on the pitty-pot, but rather expressing my loss in the only way I know how. How long will it take me to get over her? Perhaps never … but I’m sure over time the pain will lessen and I will understand or see what lesson I can learn from the tragedy. Therein lies my liberation.
What happened in Oslo this weekend, and the incredible loss of human life is inconceivable. I can’t get my mind around it. The loss and grief families, friends, teachers, leaders, neighbors, etc. must be experiencing is mind blowing. How they mourn, and try to rebuild their lives is entirely up to them and my heart goes out to them.
Also, the tragic loss of Amy Winehouse, at such a young age, in London leaves thousands mourning and asking WHY? Why did this happen?
We may never know the full answers to any of the above, but it’s important to acknowledge those we loved and be grateful they were an important part of our life. We are the person we are today because they touched our lives in some meaningful way!
Perhaps if I had Krissy in my life today I would not have my little cocker/poodle, Teddy and he might still be living in that animal shelter. He is truly a joy to have and be around and brings new meaning to my life. He is totally unaware of my loss and that’s OK! I continue to miss Krissy but am grateful for all the wonderful things she brought into my life… especially unconditional love!
Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com
Copyright© 2011 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article. Thank you.
Grief is so personal and yet a necessary part of the human condition. I’m sure it’s there to teach us to live, laugh and enjoy each day to the fullest that we have on this beautiful planet … to focus on the NOW instead of spending time and energy focusing on our loss... Without grief, we probably would not appreciate all the other wonderful things happening around and in us. Even animals are not immune to loss and suffering …
Yes, the opposite of grief is joy. But I am not there yet! Somehow, I still mourn the loss of my little Shih-Tzu, Krissy, on May 25, 2011. I blame myself for what happened to her even though I am aware that will not bring her back, or, change what happened. I don’t feel that I’m on the pitty-pot, but rather expressing my loss in the only way I know how. How long will it take me to get over her? Perhaps never … but I’m sure over time the pain will lessen and I will understand or see what lesson I can learn from the tragedy. Therein lies my liberation.
What happened in Oslo this weekend, and the incredible loss of human life is inconceivable. I can’t get my mind around it. The loss and grief families, friends, teachers, leaders, neighbors, etc. must be experiencing is mind blowing. How they mourn, and try to rebuild their lives is entirely up to them and my heart goes out to them.
Also, the tragic loss of Amy Winehouse, at such a young age, in London leaves thousands mourning and asking WHY? Why did this happen?
We may never know the full answers to any of the above, but it’s important to acknowledge those we loved and be grateful they were an important part of our life. We are the person we are today because they touched our lives in some meaningful way!
Perhaps if I had Krissy in my life today I would not have my little cocker/poodle, Teddy and he might still be living in that animal shelter. He is truly a joy to have and be around and brings new meaning to my life. He is totally unaware of my loss and that’s OK! I continue to miss Krissy but am grateful for all the wonderful things she brought into my life… especially unconditional love!
Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com
Copyright© 2011 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article. Thank you.
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