A New Holiday Tradition
By Shirley M. Carolan
With the advent of the Holiday Season it's very easy to get caught up in the hustle, bustle, expectations, and shop-till-you-drop mentality. This year I decided to change old behaviors and customs and try a new adventure, without expecting others to join me. I wanted to do, or see, something I would not normally do on my own, something that would be uniquely mine, and give me many fond memories to reflect on throughout the year. I didn't have to look far to find something that would fill this bill. I share that with you now because the result has been an increase in my energy, a new appreciation of my decision-making abilities, joy at doing something nice on my own, and a new holiday tradition! :
Ever since moving from San Francisco to southern California, December 1997, I have wanted to see the annual "Boat Parade of Lights" at the Oceanside Harbor. This is a wonderful event that seems to start the holiday festivities off in the right direction. Each year I forgot, had other plans, or couldn't find anyone who wanted to go. Last night, I jumped in my car and drove down to the Oceanside Harbor. I treated myself to dinner at the Oceanside Yacht Club followed by the parade.
Incidentally, this is one of the few times in the year that the yacht club is open to the public. It was well worth the time and money. I met some very nice folks who were experiencing it for the first time too. Now, I plan on making it a holiday tradition, along with seeing The Nutcracker, of course!
The parade started at 7 PM with 30 boats, power boats and sail boats, lovingly and exquisitely decorated with colored lights, Santas, reindeer and holiday motifs sailed by. The oohs and aahs, and hand clapping of the crowd were almost deafening! I am glad I was not a judge at this event. I knew the newspapers would have a field day taking photos for their Sunday editions. We are so blessed to have such a beautiful harbor! So many wealthier cities along our west coast don't, except perhaps Newport Beach, which has their parade over several nights. I've seen it many times because my twin brother was a staff commodore at one of the yacht clubs there. But, I think our boats and parade could surely give them a run for their money!
If you live nearby, and you've not seen this parade I highly recommend it. If you have folks visiting they will love it too! Better yet, don’t be afraid to go on your own especially if you are a woman and/or live alone. I did, and now I'm hooked!
I heard talk last night that next year they plan on having the parade on more than just one night. A lot of the fine restaurants and unique little shops down at the harbor have asked them to do so. Stay tuned.
Now I'm ready to face the endless Christmas shopping with renewed vigor. I hope this will encourage you to do something nice for yourself this Christmas and set a new tradition without expecting others to join you! You'll be glad you did. As Shakespeare said "Action is Eloquence!"
Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
Speaker/Writer/Coach
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
carolcom@qwestinternet.net
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
Copyright © 2006 by Shirley Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any portion of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at carolcom@qwestinternet.net .
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Tuesday, December 12, 2006
Friday, November 17, 2006
WRITING IS A NOBLE PROFESSION©
"IT SPEAKS ALL LANGUAGES! "
By Shirley M. Carolan
Growing up in the Land of Shakespeare and the Magna Carta, I developed a healthy respect and love for the English language. I was fascinated by both the sound and the meaning of words! It has been a lasting, worthy, and passionate love affair to this day! And, quite frankly, I expect to take this love affair of words with me to the grave!
As I reflect on the myriad careers I've tried, none has ever given me the joy, rewards, recognition, that writing has …. real estate, insurance, antiques, maritime, teaching, and 30 years in corporate America, could not even hold a candle to the wonderful world of words. Only teaching comes close to the sense of fulfillment, of being alive, and helping others that writing brings.
Regardless of what I am writing, or for whom, I use skills that I thoroughly enjoy. I even love the solitude, or privacy, that writing affords. I never seem to be at a loss for words, and am free to put them on paper whenever I choose. I can write at 6 AM or midnight, in my 'jamas, jeans, or 2-piece suit. My age is not a deterrent or handicap in this profession, unlike what I've experienced in other fields. Need I go on?
When I graduated from high school, a month after my 16th birthday, in my new, adopted country, the United States of America, I had no business skills to earn a living with and had to settle for menial work until I was able to save enough money to put myself through Business School while also supporting my parents. It never occurred to me back then that the love of words would be my way out of the "ghetto! " That would come years later and is for another article …
Today, I am grateful that I never lost my curiosity and love of words, especially since these last few years I've been earning my living as a freelance writer. I've met, and interviewed, some wonderful people, from many professions: doctors, dentists, chiropractors, veterinarians, politicians, dress designers, Hollywood directors, entrepreneurs, outstanding senior citizens, movers and shakers. Then, I've written articles, personal interest stories, advertorials, etc. about them and their business, some even making the cover of glossy magazines.
When I think about writing, it's more than just writing, it's about thinking and putting thoughts, down on paper. Where else can you get paid for your thoughts? A think tank perhaps? But that's not everyone's cup of tea, even if you're an expert in a particular field. So, let me define what writing means to me because it cannot be captured in a sentence, or even a paragraph. It's far too complex for that.
What Is Writing?
1. Writing is an art.
2. It captures the mind and the soul
3. It is creative
4. It is expressive
5. It allows us to express our values/beliefs/truths
6. Writing is both personal and powerful
7. It is a forum to share (our thoughts/truths/etc.) with others
8. It can heal
9. It connects us with others and the universe at large
10. Without writing, mankind would lose its rich heritage –
its place in history
11. It influences, persuades, motivates, inspires others
12. It enlightens others
13. It educates
14. It conveys emotions, strengths – weaknesses
15. It motivates and is a catalyst for change
16. It uplifts the spirit
17. It praises and expresses appreciation
18. Writing honors our spiritual world and God
19. It is an on-going process – it never ends!
20. Writing should never be used as propaganda – to fool others!
Furthermore, writing is an essential tool used by all businesses; to market their products, services, expertise, in the public or private sector. Good writing can make or break a business. It can pave the way to staying in business, and to making a profit A business literally thrives on good writing. It can even measure its success of the written word through:
· Brochures
· Annual reports
· Stockholders' interests
· Sales materials/promotions
· Newsletters
· Websites
· Blogs
· HowTo Manuals
· Training Materials
· Business Cards
· Press Releases
· White Papers
To be sure, the above is not meant to be all-inclusive but it certainly dignifies and illustrates the beauty and value of what words can achieve.
Lately, I've been doing a lot of editing for clients and it occurred to me that anyone can write but it takes a discerning mind to have a real impact on others. This is especially true if you are preparing to give a speech to a formidable, paying audience. Here is where I feel I have the best of both worlds since I both speak and write to diverse audiences. Hence, I leave you with some thoughts to ponder. Maybe you'll discover what writing means to you. Maybe you'll decide to try it as a career!
I feel a good writer and speaker have much in common. They both need to have and master some fundamental skills: Following are some skills worth cultivating and using..
Essential Skills:
· Sincerity
· Honesty
· Perceptiveness
· Ability to see both sides of any situation
· Dedication
· Enthusiasm
· High energy
· Ability to get all the facts, especially in reporting
· Be unbiased yet be willing to tell both sides of a situation
· Patience with yourself and others
· Be prepared, punctual, professional
· Willingness to rewrite if the client wants it
Lastly, I think being a good writer means never doubting your skills and abilities, at least not to the point of sabotaging yourself. It also means knowing when to stop! Knowing when enough rewriting and editing are enough! Journaling has helped me to see my patterns, what habits are working for, or against me, and where I can be proud of taking action to achieve my goals. Life is indeed a journey and so is writing!
Ah yes, writing is a wonderful way of life. That's why I came up with the motto: "Words are the poetry of the soul! They are as unique as your fingerprints. You owe it to yourself to leave the finest imprint!" .
Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
Speaker/Writer/Coach
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
Carolcom@qwestinternet.net
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
Copyright © 2006 by Shirley Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any portion of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at carolcom@qwestinternet.net.
By Shirley M. Carolan
Growing up in the Land of Shakespeare and the Magna Carta, I developed a healthy respect and love for the English language. I was fascinated by both the sound and the meaning of words! It has been a lasting, worthy, and passionate love affair to this day! And, quite frankly, I expect to take this love affair of words with me to the grave!
As I reflect on the myriad careers I've tried, none has ever given me the joy, rewards, recognition, that writing has …. real estate, insurance, antiques, maritime, teaching, and 30 years in corporate America, could not even hold a candle to the wonderful world of words. Only teaching comes close to the sense of fulfillment, of being alive, and helping others that writing brings.
Regardless of what I am writing, or for whom, I use skills that I thoroughly enjoy. I even love the solitude, or privacy, that writing affords. I never seem to be at a loss for words, and am free to put them on paper whenever I choose. I can write at 6 AM or midnight, in my 'jamas, jeans, or 2-piece suit. My age is not a deterrent or handicap in this profession, unlike what I've experienced in other fields. Need I go on?
When I graduated from high school, a month after my 16th birthday, in my new, adopted country, the United States of America, I had no business skills to earn a living with and had to settle for menial work until I was able to save enough money to put myself through Business School while also supporting my parents. It never occurred to me back then that the love of words would be my way out of the "ghetto! " That would come years later and is for another article …
Today, I am grateful that I never lost my curiosity and love of words, especially since these last few years I've been earning my living as a freelance writer. I've met, and interviewed, some wonderful people, from many professions: doctors, dentists, chiropractors, veterinarians, politicians, dress designers, Hollywood directors, entrepreneurs, outstanding senior citizens, movers and shakers. Then, I've written articles, personal interest stories, advertorials, etc. about them and their business, some even making the cover of glossy magazines.
When I think about writing, it's more than just writing, it's about thinking and putting thoughts, down on paper. Where else can you get paid for your thoughts? A think tank perhaps? But that's not everyone's cup of tea, even if you're an expert in a particular field. So, let me define what writing means to me because it cannot be captured in a sentence, or even a paragraph. It's far too complex for that.
What Is Writing?
1. Writing is an art.
2. It captures the mind and the soul
3. It is creative
4. It is expressive
5. It allows us to express our values/beliefs/truths
6. Writing is both personal and powerful
7. It is a forum to share (our thoughts/truths/etc.) with others
8. It can heal
9. It connects us with others and the universe at large
10. Without writing, mankind would lose its rich heritage –
its place in history
11. It influences, persuades, motivates, inspires others
12. It enlightens others
13. It educates
14. It conveys emotions, strengths – weaknesses
15. It motivates and is a catalyst for change
16. It uplifts the spirit
17. It praises and expresses appreciation
18. Writing honors our spiritual world and God
19. It is an on-going process – it never ends!
20. Writing should never be used as propaganda – to fool others!
Furthermore, writing is an essential tool used by all businesses; to market their products, services, expertise, in the public or private sector. Good writing can make or break a business. It can pave the way to staying in business, and to making a profit A business literally thrives on good writing. It can even measure its success of the written word through:
· Brochures
· Annual reports
· Stockholders' interests
· Sales materials/promotions
· Newsletters
· Websites
· Blogs
· HowTo Manuals
· Training Materials
· Business Cards
· Press Releases
· White Papers
To be sure, the above is not meant to be all-inclusive but it certainly dignifies and illustrates the beauty and value of what words can achieve.
Lately, I've been doing a lot of editing for clients and it occurred to me that anyone can write but it takes a discerning mind to have a real impact on others. This is especially true if you are preparing to give a speech to a formidable, paying audience. Here is where I feel I have the best of both worlds since I both speak and write to diverse audiences. Hence, I leave you with some thoughts to ponder. Maybe you'll discover what writing means to you. Maybe you'll decide to try it as a career!
I feel a good writer and speaker have much in common. They both need to have and master some fundamental skills: Following are some skills worth cultivating and using..
Essential Skills:
· Sincerity
· Honesty
· Perceptiveness
· Ability to see both sides of any situation
· Dedication
· Enthusiasm
· High energy
· Ability to get all the facts, especially in reporting
· Be unbiased yet be willing to tell both sides of a situation
· Patience with yourself and others
· Be prepared, punctual, professional
· Willingness to rewrite if the client wants it
Lastly, I think being a good writer means never doubting your skills and abilities, at least not to the point of sabotaging yourself. It also means knowing when to stop! Knowing when enough rewriting and editing are enough! Journaling has helped me to see my patterns, what habits are working for, or against me, and where I can be proud of taking action to achieve my goals. Life is indeed a journey and so is writing!
Ah yes, writing is a wonderful way of life. That's why I came up with the motto: "Words are the poetry of the soul! They are as unique as your fingerprints. You owe it to yourself to leave the finest imprint!" .
Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
Speaker/Writer/Coach
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
Carolcom@qwestinternet.net
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
Copyright © 2006 by Shirley Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any portion of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at carolcom@qwestinternet.net.
Monday, October 16, 2006
MENTORING
“THE ART AND REWARDS OF MENTORING©"
By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
When I finished the first draft of this topic, over 4 weeks ago, I was quite satisfied with the results. After all, over the years, I had mentored enough people to know what I was talking about. Yet, something kept nagging at me to go on-line and find more information and tips on mentoring. That has been my undoing. I uncovered a plethora of material on the subject. Next came agonizing decisions on what, and how much, to incorporate in my Mentoring article. Also, I found large inconsistencies between examples of being a mentor and being a coach. It seems that coaches are an entirely different breed and get paid for their coaching. Whereas, for the most part, mentors do not charge fees. As a result of all this research, I now, I have enough material to write a paid article, on the differences and scope between coaches and mentors, should that opportunity arise.
Meanwhile, my article is about mentoring, particularly as it applies to the new members in my Toastmasters club! It may be specific in nature but you can certainly take the tips offered and apply them to your own business needs. So first,
Let's Define What Mentoring Is:
The finest description I ran across was from The Mentoring Group/CCC, Grass Valley, CA. "MENTORING IS: The process in which successful individuals go out of their way to help others establish their goals and develop the skills to reach them." We certainly do this in Toastmasters International. My Toastmaster Club, Tick Talk Toastmasters, Carlsbad, CA has a formal mentoring program. Indeed, mentoring is the new requirement for the "competent leader" designation!
Why Should You Get A Mentor?
Again, The Mentoring Group/CCC goes on to say "MENTORING CAN HELP YOU: acquire skills, open doors, increase confidence, widen your perspective, avoid many errors, otherwise enhance your career and life, and help your organization succeed."
I concur, so we're off to a fine start! Obviously, that's only part of the equation. But, I'm not going to waste precious space, your eyes, and my time dispelling some of the myths about mentoring! That's for another time and article. Instead, I'm going to focus on the actual mentoring role, how to go about it, setting some ground rules, and knowing when to part ways.
Make no mistake about it, mentoring is an art form. It’s a two-way street that many folks miss, or completely overlook, especially if they have never been asked to mentor a newcomer. The person who mentors gets as much satisfaction and pleasure from mentoring as the person being mentored. It’s an educational process for both. Plus, it’s a very rewarding way to give back to your Toastmaster Club. Once you have mentored a newcomer you will want to do it again!
It's been my experience that mentored Toastmasters have a very determined agenda to succeed at their communications skills, complete their manual speeches, and are not afraid to enter contests. Their confidence and commitment are both obvious and contagious.
Incidentally, Webster’s dictionary defines a Mentor as an adviser, counselor, guide, tutor, teacher and/or guru. Before you mentor someone, however, I’d like to expand on that description and offer you some tips:
● You have to care about others in order to be of service/help to them.
● You have to be an expert in your field, somebody who has achieved a level of competence in your craft and recognition by your peers.
● You have to be a good listener!
● You have to be willing and able to mentor someone.
● It takes time and patience to produce effective results. Do you have the necessary time?
● You have to be honest in your feedback. You will be using all your evaluator skills. And, just like you don’t want an evaluator to white wash you, or your efforts, you need to be diplomatic (in your comments). This means leaving your ego at the door and putting yourself in the shoes of your mentee.
Usually, I am asked by a newcomer if I would mentor them after they have heard me speak a few times. This has nothing to do with ego, or my English accent, rather it has to do with years of experience and poise at the podium. Thus, whenever I mentor anyone from Toastmasters I have several rules that I follow:
● First, I ascertain the mentee’s goals, time table (for completing the first manual of speeches), and willingness to step out of their comfort zone. and try new ideas or methods.
● Next, I find out if they have ever used audio-visual equipment and how competent they are. Most folks today are computer literate and designing slides in Powerpoint for a presentation is not a daunting thing. The art of how to show slides in a presentation is for another article.
If for any reason the person is unfamiliar with the technology, I suggest services like Kinko’s, Office Depot, etc. If necessary, I will also offer the use of my overhead projector.
● Usually, I insist that a mentee use a tape recorder to record their presentation, or other recording device, e.g., an iPod, so that they can play it back at different times throughout the day. Not surprisingly, a voice can sound different in the early morning hours to later in the evening. I also suggest that they record their presentation when they give it live before an audience. I find this helpful in pinpointing how, where or why I went off track from my practice sessions.
● Next, I tell them to record the Evaluator’s comments. The golden nuggets that come from this feedback are sometimes priceless! It’s also another educational tool to help give better presentations, which I find a lot of people overlook.
Lastly, before you decide to mentor someone, review the above suggestions and then set some reasonable guidelines for them, as well as yourself. Be up front in what you expect from them and what you are willing to contribute. While nothing is buried in cement, it doesn't hurt to know, in advance, what expectations are at stake.
As mentioned earlier, Mentoring is certainly not unique to Toastmasters. But, as a part of a mentoring group with my Toastmaster Club, I know how well a mentoring program works. If your Toastmaster club does not have a mentoring program I highly recommend that you set about instituting one. The benefits are profound because not only do the mentor and mentee benefit, but the whole club benefits! How? Through better, more polished and articulate speeches, where the mentee can literally showcase his/her growth! I have seen wallflowers blossom into tigers on the platform. I have seen shaky, inept speakers turn into dynamos ready to compete in any one of our annual contests, from Humorous, Tall Tales, Table Topics, to the coveted International Speech Contest. I have seen seasoned pros, including myself, fall by the wayside by a "newbie" who was mentored in the fine art of public speaking, Now that's progress!
Happy Mentoring!
Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
Speaker/Writer/Coach
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
carolcom@qwestinternet.net
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
Copyright © 2006 by Shirley Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any portion of this article simply contact Shirey Carolan at carolcom@qwestinternet.net .
By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
When I finished the first draft of this topic, over 4 weeks ago, I was quite satisfied with the results. After all, over the years, I had mentored enough people to know what I was talking about. Yet, something kept nagging at me to go on-line and find more information and tips on mentoring. That has been my undoing. I uncovered a plethora of material on the subject. Next came agonizing decisions on what, and how much, to incorporate in my Mentoring article. Also, I found large inconsistencies between examples of being a mentor and being a coach. It seems that coaches are an entirely different breed and get paid for their coaching. Whereas, for the most part, mentors do not charge fees. As a result of all this research, I now, I have enough material to write a paid article, on the differences and scope between coaches and mentors, should that opportunity arise.
Meanwhile, my article is about mentoring, particularly as it applies to the new members in my Toastmasters club! It may be specific in nature but you can certainly take the tips offered and apply them to your own business needs. So first,
Let's Define What Mentoring Is:
The finest description I ran across was from The Mentoring Group/CCC, Grass Valley, CA. "MENTORING IS: The process in which successful individuals go out of their way to help others establish their goals and develop the skills to reach them." We certainly do this in Toastmasters International. My Toastmaster Club, Tick Talk Toastmasters, Carlsbad, CA has a formal mentoring program. Indeed, mentoring is the new requirement for the "competent leader" designation!
Why Should You Get A Mentor?
Again, The Mentoring Group/CCC goes on to say "MENTORING CAN HELP YOU: acquire skills, open doors, increase confidence, widen your perspective, avoid many errors, otherwise enhance your career and life, and help your organization succeed."
I concur, so we're off to a fine start! Obviously, that's only part of the equation. But, I'm not going to waste precious space, your eyes, and my time dispelling some of the myths about mentoring! That's for another time and article. Instead, I'm going to focus on the actual mentoring role, how to go about it, setting some ground rules, and knowing when to part ways.
Make no mistake about it, mentoring is an art form. It’s a two-way street that many folks miss, or completely overlook, especially if they have never been asked to mentor a newcomer. The person who mentors gets as much satisfaction and pleasure from mentoring as the person being mentored. It’s an educational process for both. Plus, it’s a very rewarding way to give back to your Toastmaster Club. Once you have mentored a newcomer you will want to do it again!
It's been my experience that mentored Toastmasters have a very determined agenda to succeed at their communications skills, complete their manual speeches, and are not afraid to enter contests. Their confidence and commitment are both obvious and contagious.
Incidentally, Webster’s dictionary defines a Mentor as an adviser, counselor, guide, tutor, teacher and/or guru. Before you mentor someone, however, I’d like to expand on that description and offer you some tips:
● You have to care about others in order to be of service/help to them.
● You have to be an expert in your field, somebody who has achieved a level of competence in your craft and recognition by your peers.
● You have to be a good listener!
● You have to be willing and able to mentor someone.
● It takes time and patience to produce effective results. Do you have the necessary time?
● You have to be honest in your feedback. You will be using all your evaluator skills. And, just like you don’t want an evaluator to white wash you, or your efforts, you need to be diplomatic (in your comments). This means leaving your ego at the door and putting yourself in the shoes of your mentee.
Usually, I am asked by a newcomer if I would mentor them after they have heard me speak a few times. This has nothing to do with ego, or my English accent, rather it has to do with years of experience and poise at the podium. Thus, whenever I mentor anyone from Toastmasters I have several rules that I follow:
● First, I ascertain the mentee’s goals, time table (for completing the first manual of speeches), and willingness to step out of their comfort zone. and try new ideas or methods.
● Next, I find out if they have ever used audio-visual equipment and how competent they are. Most folks today are computer literate and designing slides in Powerpoint for a presentation is not a daunting thing. The art of how to show slides in a presentation is for another article.
If for any reason the person is unfamiliar with the technology, I suggest services like Kinko’s, Office Depot, etc. If necessary, I will also offer the use of my overhead projector.
● Usually, I insist that a mentee use a tape recorder to record their presentation, or other recording device, e.g., an iPod, so that they can play it back at different times throughout the day. Not surprisingly, a voice can sound different in the early morning hours to later in the evening. I also suggest that they record their presentation when they give it live before an audience. I find this helpful in pinpointing how, where or why I went off track from my practice sessions.
● Next, I tell them to record the Evaluator’s comments. The golden nuggets that come from this feedback are sometimes priceless! It’s also another educational tool to help give better presentations, which I find a lot of people overlook.
Lastly, before you decide to mentor someone, review the above suggestions and then set some reasonable guidelines for them, as well as yourself. Be up front in what you expect from them and what you are willing to contribute. While nothing is buried in cement, it doesn't hurt to know, in advance, what expectations are at stake.
As mentioned earlier, Mentoring is certainly not unique to Toastmasters. But, as a part of a mentoring group with my Toastmaster Club, I know how well a mentoring program works. If your Toastmaster club does not have a mentoring program I highly recommend that you set about instituting one. The benefits are profound because not only do the mentor and mentee benefit, but the whole club benefits! How? Through better, more polished and articulate speeches, where the mentee can literally showcase his/her growth! I have seen wallflowers blossom into tigers on the platform. I have seen shaky, inept speakers turn into dynamos ready to compete in any one of our annual contests, from Humorous, Tall Tales, Table Topics, to the coveted International Speech Contest. I have seen seasoned pros, including myself, fall by the wayside by a "newbie" who was mentored in the fine art of public speaking, Now that's progress!
Happy Mentoring!
Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
Speaker/Writer/Coach
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
carolcom@qwestinternet.net
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
Copyright © 2006 by Shirley Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any portion of this article simply contact Shirey Carolan at carolcom@qwestinternet.net .
Friday, September 29, 2006
JOURNALING WORKSHOP WAS A SUCCESS!
By Shirley Carolan
The first Journaling class this week was a huge success! The class was small but very inter-active. We covered a lot of territory, from theory to exercises, questions, to sharing and gaining clarity.
The joy of teaching something that can significantly impact the lives of others for the better is its own reward!
Many years ago I read, and gave a lot of lip service to Marsha Sinetar's best-selling book "Do What You Love And The Money Will Follow!" That philosophy bore itself out last night. It reinforced what I'd known for ages. Get out of my comfort zone, take a risk, communicate with others, and teach something I am passionate about!
This Journaling class falls on the heels of a very successful August, "Goal Setting" class. Now, I know it's not a fluke, or coincidence, folks are interested in learning more about practical, hands-on, stimulating activities, and actions they can implement, to change their lives for the better!
These two classes "Goal Setting" and "Journaling" are definitely complementary and can be combined into one powerful half-day workshop. However, for the time being, I will promote them separately at a special "introductory rate." Therefore, stay tuned for upcoming October workshops. Tentative classroom reservations have been made for "Goal Setting" on October 18 and October 25, same time and place. All students will get a reminder of this in my monthly newsletter.
Happy Journaling Everyone!
Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
Speaker/Writer/Coach
Phone/Fax: 750-732-0663
carolcom@qwestinternet.net
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
The first Journaling class this week was a huge success! The class was small but very inter-active. We covered a lot of territory, from theory to exercises, questions, to sharing and gaining clarity.
The joy of teaching something that can significantly impact the lives of others for the better is its own reward!
Many years ago I read, and gave a lot of lip service to Marsha Sinetar's best-selling book "Do What You Love And The Money Will Follow!" That philosophy bore itself out last night. It reinforced what I'd known for ages. Get out of my comfort zone, take a risk, communicate with others, and teach something I am passionate about!
This Journaling class falls on the heels of a very successful August, "Goal Setting" class. Now, I know it's not a fluke, or coincidence, folks are interested in learning more about practical, hands-on, stimulating activities, and actions they can implement, to change their lives for the better!
These two classes "Goal Setting" and "Journaling" are definitely complementary and can be combined into one powerful half-day workshop. However, for the time being, I will promote them separately at a special "introductory rate." Therefore, stay tuned for upcoming October workshops. Tentative classroom reservations have been made for "Goal Setting" on October 18 and October 25, same time and place. All students will get a reminder of this in my monthly newsletter.
Happy Journaling Everyone!
Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
Speaker/Writer/Coach
Phone/Fax: 750-732-0663
carolcom@qwestinternet.net
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
Saturday, September 23, 2006
HELP! I'm Looking for a Tech Partner
By Shirley M. Carolan
Are you very good at the technical side of a business, website design, Pod casting, converting manuscripts into eBooks, eBook compiler? Are you cover savvy? Can you produce CDs with attractive labels? Do you love the technical side of a business but hate the writing, editing, promoting end of it? Do you have clients who use your technical skills but you can't help them with their written needs?
If you answered YES to the above, then we need to communicate. I am passionate about words, writing all kinds of business materials, editing, interviewing business owners and writing profiles for magazines, etc. I love the creative side of business but hate the technical stuff.
Recently, clients have asked me why I don't sell CDs and eBooks, etc. at my seminars. It's because I am not savvy technically and don't have the patience to learn the technical stuff. But, I would like to partner with someone who has the technical skills. That person could be you!
Please read the articles I've posted on this Blog and also go to my website at http:// www.shirleycarolan.com to find out more about my background and writing expertise. If you are then interested, please contact me at 760-732-0663.
Thank you.
Shirley M. Carolan
Speaker/Writer/Coach
Carolan Communications
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
carolcom@qwestinternet.net
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
Are you very good at the technical side of a business, website design, Pod casting, converting manuscripts into eBooks, eBook compiler? Are you cover savvy? Can you produce CDs with attractive labels? Do you love the technical side of a business but hate the writing, editing, promoting end of it? Do you have clients who use your technical skills but you can't help them with their written needs?
If you answered YES to the above, then we need to communicate. I am passionate about words, writing all kinds of business materials, editing, interviewing business owners and writing profiles for magazines, etc. I love the creative side of business but hate the technical stuff.
Recently, clients have asked me why I don't sell CDs and eBooks, etc. at my seminars. It's because I am not savvy technically and don't have the patience to learn the technical stuff. But, I would like to partner with someone who has the technical skills. That person could be you!
Please read the articles I've posted on this Blog and also go to my website at http:// www.shirleycarolan.com to find out more about my background and writing expertise. If you are then interested, please contact me at 760-732-0663.
Thank you.
Shirley M. Carolan
Speaker/Writer/Coach
Carolan Communications
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
carolcom@qwestinternet.net
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
Sunday, September 10, 2006
JOURNALING -- What's in it for YOU?
By Shirley M. Carolan
What is Journaling? Why bother to journal? Does it really work? At the outset, I'd like to define "Journaling" as opposed to "Keeping a Diary," because a lot of folks confuse the two, which does neither of them justice. They both have their rightful place in our lives.
In a nutshell, a Journaling is a very personal record of events in your life and how they have impacted you, and/or have aroused specific feelings, both positive and negative. It's a laying bare of your soul, or your fundamental nature. It helps you identify who pushes your buttons and why. This knowledge can help you to change old habits, limiting beliefs, or giving your power away to others! YOU remain in control of your own destiny! At any given moment in time, YOU know exactly where you stand, and how you feel about important issues, i.e., people, places, and things in your life!
Whereas, when I think of a Diary, I think in terms of my "Daytimers" which outlines daily appointments, times, places, purposes, etc. It's a good place to list expenses involved in such meetings or business appointments, i.e., meals, tips, mileage, tolls, parking, gasoline, etc. It certainly is an invaluable tool when preparing income tax returns for the IRS. A Diary then is a very impersonal way of recording your life's events. At any given point in time you can look back in your Diary and see where you were, what you did, and who else was in the picture. Again, a very impersonal way of looking at your life but one that has its own merits.
Why Journal? The reasons and benefits are myriad and encompass the whole gamut of human emotions, beliefs, attitudes, values, lifestyles… from the therapeutic to the miracle of wanting to change outmoded responses, or behavior that no longer serves you, to discovering the real YOU, and what makes you tick!
Does it really work? Absolutely! But don't take my word for it. Instead do the following exercise, and see what you come up with:
Sit quietly for a moment with pad and pen/pencil at hand. Ask yourself the following question "How happy am I with my life right now? If I could rank it on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being the best, how would I rank it? Why did I give it that particular rank? Is there something I feel is still missing from my life? What is it? How can I have it, be it, or do it?
Once you have truthfully written down the answers to the above questions, you have just started on the wonderful road to Journaling. For many, it's a road to recovery, of reclaiming the self, reclaiming the power they have given away. For others, it's clarification of the choices they have made so far in this lifetime. And yet for others, it's a signal that the goals they have set for themselves are valid and worthy of attainment, or the answers could be entirely the reverse. Remember, it's your life and it's unique to YOU!
Not quite convinced? Then, here are a few more benefits to be gleaned from Journaling:
· Gain Clarity - about your life and world around you
· Learn Forgiveness – especially for past mistakes
· Prioritize what’s important to YOU!
· Let go of Anxiety, especially of things you can't control
· Take Action, instead of lettings others decided for you
Obviously, this is not an all-inclusive list. As you gain more clarity and confidence in your journaling, you will come up with your own list of benefits! This list is merely to help you keep up your journaling by reviewing some of its benefits! Make no mistake about it, journaling is a journey, just like life. I guarantee you, it will not be boring! Best of all, Journaling is the perfect complement to Goal Setting!
If you would like more information on Journaling, why not join me in a two session workshop on September 20 and September 27. You will get your own workbook, with on-going exercises to do, both in and out of class, meet other folks who want to take charge of their destiny, and who knows, you may end up with a best seller on your hands! Just go to my website www.shirleycarolan.com for more information.
Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
Speaker/Writer/Coach
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
Carolcom@qwestinternet.net
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
Copyright © 2006 by Shirley Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any portion of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at carolcom@qwestinternet.net.
What is Journaling? Why bother to journal? Does it really work? At the outset, I'd like to define "Journaling" as opposed to "Keeping a Diary," because a lot of folks confuse the two, which does neither of them justice. They both have their rightful place in our lives.
In a nutshell, a Journaling is a very personal record of events in your life and how they have impacted you, and/or have aroused specific feelings, both positive and negative. It's a laying bare of your soul, or your fundamental nature. It helps you identify who pushes your buttons and why. This knowledge can help you to change old habits, limiting beliefs, or giving your power away to others! YOU remain in control of your own destiny! At any given moment in time, YOU know exactly where you stand, and how you feel about important issues, i.e., people, places, and things in your life!
Whereas, when I think of a Diary, I think in terms of my "Daytimers" which outlines daily appointments, times, places, purposes, etc. It's a good place to list expenses involved in such meetings or business appointments, i.e., meals, tips, mileage, tolls, parking, gasoline, etc. It certainly is an invaluable tool when preparing income tax returns for the IRS. A Diary then is a very impersonal way of recording your life's events. At any given point in time you can look back in your Diary and see where you were, what you did, and who else was in the picture. Again, a very impersonal way of looking at your life but one that has its own merits.
Why Journal? The reasons and benefits are myriad and encompass the whole gamut of human emotions, beliefs, attitudes, values, lifestyles… from the therapeutic to the miracle of wanting to change outmoded responses, or behavior that no longer serves you, to discovering the real YOU, and what makes you tick!
Does it really work? Absolutely! But don't take my word for it. Instead do the following exercise, and see what you come up with:
Sit quietly for a moment with pad and pen/pencil at hand. Ask yourself the following question "How happy am I with my life right now? If I could rank it on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being the best, how would I rank it? Why did I give it that particular rank? Is there something I feel is still missing from my life? What is it? How can I have it, be it, or do it?
Once you have truthfully written down the answers to the above questions, you have just started on the wonderful road to Journaling. For many, it's a road to recovery, of reclaiming the self, reclaiming the power they have given away. For others, it's clarification of the choices they have made so far in this lifetime. And yet for others, it's a signal that the goals they have set for themselves are valid and worthy of attainment, or the answers could be entirely the reverse. Remember, it's your life and it's unique to YOU!
Not quite convinced? Then, here are a few more benefits to be gleaned from Journaling:
· Gain Clarity - about your life and world around you
· Learn Forgiveness – especially for past mistakes
· Prioritize what’s important to YOU!
· Let go of Anxiety, especially of things you can't control
· Take Action, instead of lettings others decided for you
Obviously, this is not an all-inclusive list. As you gain more clarity and confidence in your journaling, you will come up with your own list of benefits! This list is merely to help you keep up your journaling by reviewing some of its benefits! Make no mistake about it, journaling is a journey, just like life. I guarantee you, it will not be boring! Best of all, Journaling is the perfect complement to Goal Setting!
If you would like more information on Journaling, why not join me in a two session workshop on September 20 and September 27. You will get your own workbook, with on-going exercises to do, both in and out of class, meet other folks who want to take charge of their destiny, and who knows, you may end up with a best seller on your hands! Just go to my website www.shirleycarolan.com for more information.
Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
Speaker/Writer/Coach
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
Carolcom@qwestinternet.net
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
Copyright © 2006 by Shirley Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any portion of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at carolcom@qwestinternet.net.
Friday, September 08, 2006
AGONIZING OVER A TITLE?
All week long I've been agonizing over a title for my next article. I thought of calling it "Is Your Content Showing?" but wasn't sure folks would get it, especially since I'm writing a series of articles about speaking or, putting material together for speeches. A good cop out would be "10 Reasons Speeches Bomb!" But, I know if I asked 10 different people what they thought were good reasons speeches bomb, I would get 10 different answers, and many of them wouldn't match the ones I've come up with, so that won't do. H'm. Methinks I'll ruminate on this a little longer. After all, I'm writing from my own perspective, and 25 years with Toastmasters International. Of course, I could have more than 10 reasons speeches bomb, I could have 25, 50, 100...
Now I'm getting into the eBook stage, and that's a topic for another time. Meanwhile, if you have any better title suggestions, I'm all ears. Just leave a comment on the link provided at this site. Thank you.
Now I'm getting into the eBook stage, and that's a topic for another time. Meanwhile, if you have any better title suggestions, I'm all ears. Just leave a comment on the link provided at this site. Thank you.
"WHAT'S IN A TITLE?"
WHAT'S IN A TITLE?©
By Shirley Carolan, ATM
What's in a title, or WIT? Everything! The title of any piece, oral or written should accurately, and briefly, convey your message …or, your purpose, product or service. That may sound like a tall order. But today, with 30 second sound bites as introductions, a title is in the same category. Actually, a title always was a sound bite, or teaser, especially for folks who wanted to impart knowledge.
Whether you are writing a speech, book, an eBook, Blog, an article, or presenting a seminar, it's vital to give the audience a clear idea of what you are going to speak or write about. A truthful or stimulating title goes a long way in accomplishing this, Thus, the audience can/will determine whether the speech, article, blog, seminar, etc. is worth the investment of their time and money!
Conversely, a wrong, or misleading title, can break an otherwise credible person and ruin their fine reputation. Once this happens. it is very difficult to re-establish credibility with an audience because the audience feels that is has been duped!
Titles, therefore, should play a major role in all your marketing pieces, your repertoire, your reputation! It takes some creativity and imagination to come up with a title that will catapult you above your competition! It means selecting only titles that best reflect who and what you are! As you read this, I hope you will give careful consideration to your next public presentation. Is the title worthy of you? If not, brainstorm it with others who know and understand what it is you are trying to share or achieve.
Following are two examples I experienced that I feel illustrate the importance of a title, and/or the making or breaking of a reputation:
1. A colleague urged me to attend a seminar, at a local community center, where a well- known Pastor was giving a presentation. She told me his topic was very metaphysical and that I would get a lot out of it. I relied on her judgment and was expecting to hear a specific topic unfold. Alas, I waited, and waited, and waited but the Pastor never talked about the subject I had paid good money to hear. Instead, I felt it was a total waste of my time, money and energy! The next day my friend called and said "Wasn't he (the Pastor) fantastic!?" I had to admit that "No, he wasn't fantastic and he certainly did not live up to the billing or topic that I wanted to hear!" She responded "Oh, well, I wrote that press release for the news media."
I was shocked. Methinks she did this man a great disservice as well as possible damage to his reputation because he certainly did not live up to the billing he got in the press!
2. Recently, I was killing time in a bookstore, and scanning various books on different subjects when lo and behold a title leaped out at me "Hitler's Pope," the secret history of Pius XII, by John Cornwell, Viking Press. I was both fascinated and appalled by the synopsis of this untold story of Eugenio Pacelli's rise to power as Pope Pius XII, especially since I lived in war-torn Europe during his reign (1939-1958). So, I decided to purchase the book. It has more than lived up to its title and I have learned some indisputable facts about Austria-Hungary, the Serbian obsession for dominance, the Pope's unprecedented quest for more papal control and power thus aiding Hitler's rise to power. Indeed. I have not been able to put the book down! It is history in the making, it answers many questions without malice or subterfuge, and it gives new meaning to a catastrophe of unprecedented human magnitude. I highly recommend this book to everyone on many levels.
Interestingly, if this book had been entitled "The Life and Times of Pius XII," or, "The Life and Times of a Wartime Pope" etc. I probably would not have purchased it. But, "Hitler's Pope" hit me between the eye balls. Historians, clerics, libraries and schools should all have a copy of it.
So, there you have it … two very different impacts a title has had upon me; one a seminar, the other a book! One experience left me cold, the other leads me to want to share it with others!
To recap, a meaningful title:
· Must convey its true message/content.
· No window dressing, or whitewashing (the material)
· Be short and to the point
· Can be controversial
· Shake up the status quo
· Provoke feelings
· Inspire, motivate, or persuade
· Capture the imagination
Here are some titles that work for me: Gone With The Wind, Atlas Shrugged, Tobacco Road, Grapes of Wrath, How Green Was My Valley, Man's Search for Meaning, Wuthering Heights, On The Waterfront, War and Peace, Hitler's Pope!
As you put your material together for your next presentation, treat your title as another piece of the jigsaw puzzle. You'll be glad you spent the extra time and effort, and watch how your audience reacts to you from the get go!
Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
Speaker/Writer/Coach
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
carolcom@qwestinternet.net
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
Copyright © 2006 by Shirley Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any portion of this article simply contact Shirey Carolan at carolcom@qwestinternet.net .
By Shirley Carolan, ATM
What's in a title, or WIT? Everything! The title of any piece, oral or written should accurately, and briefly, convey your message …or, your purpose, product or service. That may sound like a tall order. But today, with 30 second sound bites as introductions, a title is in the same category. Actually, a title always was a sound bite, or teaser, especially for folks who wanted to impart knowledge.
Whether you are writing a speech, book, an eBook, Blog, an article, or presenting a seminar, it's vital to give the audience a clear idea of what you are going to speak or write about. A truthful or stimulating title goes a long way in accomplishing this, Thus, the audience can/will determine whether the speech, article, blog, seminar, etc. is worth the investment of their time and money!
Conversely, a wrong, or misleading title, can break an otherwise credible person and ruin their fine reputation. Once this happens. it is very difficult to re-establish credibility with an audience because the audience feels that is has been duped!
Titles, therefore, should play a major role in all your marketing pieces, your repertoire, your reputation! It takes some creativity and imagination to come up with a title that will catapult you above your competition! It means selecting only titles that best reflect who and what you are! As you read this, I hope you will give careful consideration to your next public presentation. Is the title worthy of you? If not, brainstorm it with others who know and understand what it is you are trying to share or achieve.
Following are two examples I experienced that I feel illustrate the importance of a title, and/or the making or breaking of a reputation:
1. A colleague urged me to attend a seminar, at a local community center, where a well- known Pastor was giving a presentation. She told me his topic was very metaphysical and that I would get a lot out of it. I relied on her judgment and was expecting to hear a specific topic unfold. Alas, I waited, and waited, and waited but the Pastor never talked about the subject I had paid good money to hear. Instead, I felt it was a total waste of my time, money and energy! The next day my friend called and said "Wasn't he (the Pastor) fantastic!?" I had to admit that "No, he wasn't fantastic and he certainly did not live up to the billing or topic that I wanted to hear!" She responded "Oh, well, I wrote that press release for the news media."
I was shocked. Methinks she did this man a great disservice as well as possible damage to his reputation because he certainly did not live up to the billing he got in the press!
2. Recently, I was killing time in a bookstore, and scanning various books on different subjects when lo and behold a title leaped out at me "Hitler's Pope," the secret history of Pius XII, by John Cornwell, Viking Press. I was both fascinated and appalled by the synopsis of this untold story of Eugenio Pacelli's rise to power as Pope Pius XII, especially since I lived in war-torn Europe during his reign (1939-1958). So, I decided to purchase the book. It has more than lived up to its title and I have learned some indisputable facts about Austria-Hungary, the Serbian obsession for dominance, the Pope's unprecedented quest for more papal control and power thus aiding Hitler's rise to power. Indeed. I have not been able to put the book down! It is history in the making, it answers many questions without malice or subterfuge, and it gives new meaning to a catastrophe of unprecedented human magnitude. I highly recommend this book to everyone on many levels.
Interestingly, if this book had been entitled "The Life and Times of Pius XII," or, "The Life and Times of a Wartime Pope" etc. I probably would not have purchased it. But, "Hitler's Pope" hit me between the eye balls. Historians, clerics, libraries and schools should all have a copy of it.
So, there you have it … two very different impacts a title has had upon me; one a seminar, the other a book! One experience left me cold, the other leads me to want to share it with others!
To recap, a meaningful title:
· Must convey its true message/content.
· No window dressing, or whitewashing (the material)
· Be short and to the point
· Can be controversial
· Shake up the status quo
· Provoke feelings
· Inspire, motivate, or persuade
· Capture the imagination
Here are some titles that work for me: Gone With The Wind, Atlas Shrugged, Tobacco Road, Grapes of Wrath, How Green Was My Valley, Man's Search for Meaning, Wuthering Heights, On The Waterfront, War and Peace, Hitler's Pope!
As you put your material together for your next presentation, treat your title as another piece of the jigsaw puzzle. You'll be glad you spent the extra time and effort, and watch how your audience reacts to you from the get go!
Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
Speaker/Writer/Coach
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
carolcom@qwestinternet.net
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
Copyright © 2006 by Shirley Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any portion of this article simply contact Shirey Carolan at carolcom@qwestinternet.net .
Wednesday, September 06, 2006
GOAL SETTING WORKSHOP COMPLETED
It is with great joy I tell you that my 2-session workshop on "Goal Setting" ended last week, and, it was a resounding success! The interaction of the participants was marvelous and added to my learning experience.
Everyone liked the workbook I wrote and even the clip art got a giggle. The evaluation forms were very rewarding too. So it looks like I will be writing and conducting an on-going series of self-development workshops. My next one is scheduled for September 20 and 27th, the same time and place. The subject is "Journaling." Please go to my website for more information www.shirleycarolan.com.
Shirley M. Carolan
Everyone liked the workbook I wrote and even the clip art got a giggle. The evaluation forms were very rewarding too. So it looks like I will be writing and conducting an on-going series of self-development workshops. My next one is scheduled for September 20 and 27th, the same time and place. The subject is "Journaling." Please go to my website for more information www.shirleycarolan.com.
Shirley M. Carolan
'SHOW... DON'T TELL
Today's Tip: "SHOW DON'T TELL!"
Fine-tuning your presentation skills is an on-going goal for Toastmasters and professional speakers alike. Once you've mastered the basics, it's time to assess your material to see how and where you can improve. Delivery can only accomplish so much. What about your content? Storytelling is an excellent way to accomplish this. A personal story, that is relevant to your purpose, and has a strong message, will go a long way in getting an audience to listen intently, take you seriously, and, if desired, move them to take action! Yet, I am amazed how many speakers overlook this important fact.
Obviously, the mantra here is not to tell a story for the sake of telling a story, or for filling up space and time. A compelling story is a supportive part of your message. Good speakers know this and do their utmost to deliver something of value to their audience.
Often, what separates an amateur speaker from a professional one is the relevancy and timeliness of a personal story, so that the audience can chew on the information and decide what to do with it. Amateurs usually tell an interesting story of something they did, saw, or visualized, but they omit the most important part of the story…How did it change their lives? What lesson did they learn from the experience. What would they do now that they would not do before? What is the "message: they want others to get?
The next time you are tempted to tell your audience a story of something that happened to you, STOP, and think the story all the way through. Instead of just "telling" them start "showing" them how it has impacted or changed your life for the better! If your goal is to persuade the audience to make some changes in their lives, you need to share what changes your experience/story has brought about in your life!
Use your own experience as a metaphor for change, for hope and for inspiration! For example, my most powerful presentation is when I talk about my first "Firewalk" experience. I stress: how I overcame tremendous fears to walk on the hot coals; what the experience was like, how I confronted my outworn behavior, habits, and limiting beliefs – how I chose to change my old way of life, and stop blaming others (for the way my life had turned out). Thus, the audience can relate to my fears and the courage it took to let go of what wasn't working in my life.
In summary, when you are ready to share your next story, or experience, with an audience, ask yourself the following questions:
● What's in this for my audience? What are the BENEFITS?
● What can they learn from my experience? Courage, change attitude, etc?
● How did this experience change my life? Stopped procrastinating?
● What can I do NOW that I wouldn't do before? Take more risks?
● What did I learn most from this experience? I CAN do it?
You will be amazed at how the audience will react to you when they know you are being genuine, are coming from the heart and not the head! They will listen, admire you, and want to follow your lead. What better way to captivate and move an audience!
Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
www.shirleycarolan.com
carolcom@qwestinternet.net
Copyright © 2006 by Shirley Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any portion of this article simply contact Shirey Carolan at carolcom@qwestinternet.net .
Fine-tuning your presentation skills is an on-going goal for Toastmasters and professional speakers alike. Once you've mastered the basics, it's time to assess your material to see how and where you can improve. Delivery can only accomplish so much. What about your content? Storytelling is an excellent way to accomplish this. A personal story, that is relevant to your purpose, and has a strong message, will go a long way in getting an audience to listen intently, take you seriously, and, if desired, move them to take action! Yet, I am amazed how many speakers overlook this important fact.
Obviously, the mantra here is not to tell a story for the sake of telling a story, or for filling up space and time. A compelling story is a supportive part of your message. Good speakers know this and do their utmost to deliver something of value to their audience.
Often, what separates an amateur speaker from a professional one is the relevancy and timeliness of a personal story, so that the audience can chew on the information and decide what to do with it. Amateurs usually tell an interesting story of something they did, saw, or visualized, but they omit the most important part of the story…How did it change their lives? What lesson did they learn from the experience. What would they do now that they would not do before? What is the "message: they want others to get?
The next time you are tempted to tell your audience a story of something that happened to you, STOP, and think the story all the way through. Instead of just "telling" them start "showing" them how it has impacted or changed your life for the better! If your goal is to persuade the audience to make some changes in their lives, you need to share what changes your experience/story has brought about in your life!
Use your own experience as a metaphor for change, for hope and for inspiration! For example, my most powerful presentation is when I talk about my first "Firewalk" experience. I stress: how I overcame tremendous fears to walk on the hot coals; what the experience was like, how I confronted my outworn behavior, habits, and limiting beliefs – how I chose to change my old way of life, and stop blaming others (for the way my life had turned out). Thus, the audience can relate to my fears and the courage it took to let go of what wasn't working in my life.
In summary, when you are ready to share your next story, or experience, with an audience, ask yourself the following questions:
● What's in this for my audience? What are the BENEFITS?
● What can they learn from my experience? Courage, change attitude, etc?
● How did this experience change my life? Stopped procrastinating?
● What can I do NOW that I wouldn't do before? Take more risks?
● What did I learn most from this experience? I CAN do it?
You will be amazed at how the audience will react to you when they know you are being genuine, are coming from the heart and not the head! They will listen, admire you, and want to follow your lead. What better way to captivate and move an audience!
Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
www.shirleycarolan.com
carolcom@qwestinternet.net
Copyright © 2006 by Shirley Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any portion of this article simply contact Shirey Carolan at carolcom@qwestinternet.net .
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